People often hunger for new and unfamiliar experiences.
Some of us get bored easily and crave exciting or different things. We say we want more variety or we describe ourselves as having a low boredom threshold. But in truth, the experience of new that most people crave or desire is a feeling and all feelings come from the same place – from our own thinking and the perceptions that thought creates.
Thoughts of boredom create feelings of boredom. Thoughts of wonder, create feelings of wonder.
And whilst it seems like it’s the situation (something ‘out there’) creating our thoughts and feelings of boredom, it never is because it doesn’t work that way.
I remember standing looking up at the beautiful and imposing sight of my local Abbey. I’ve admired this building many times. What was unusual on this particular day was that I felt I was seeing it for the first time. I had a sense of wonder and awe.
In that moment by the Abbey, I realised with absolute clarity how we are always creating the experience of new via our own minds, which means we are also creating the experience of old in the same way. And this has some fantastically helpful implications – especially if you’re a ‘new’ junky. Here are a few of them…
1) If the experience of ‘boring’ is purely a matter of perception and perspective, this means that something you’ve been perceiving as stale or boring can become fresh and interesting in a heartbeat. This includes your partner, colleagues, job or hobbies.
Just noticing how your own thinking is the architect of your perceptions and perspective, is enough to land you into the present moment. In the present moment, there is no old or new because old and new are constructs. We make them up. That’s why you can feel bored in a situation that you’ve never encountered before and feel excited or interested in a situation you’ve encountered many times.
For example, have you ever watched the same film many times or read the same book more than once and still enjoyed it? Or perhaps you’ve visited the same place more than once and still found it fresh and exciting?
2) Things you may have written off as ‘past their sell by date’ may actually have plenty of life left in them after all. This includes your own ideas, a job, hobbies, places or people. There is always the potential to see something with new eyes or hear with new ears.
3) We can choose to give up the sometimes relentless and often exhausting pursuit of the next new and exciting thing. Instead, you can continue to enjoy what you have right now. Every moment is fresh and new – only our thinking makes it old.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t seek a thrill or try new things. I’m as partial to wanting new and exciting experiences as the next person. I’m just offering an alternative way to understand where the experience and feelings of new really comes from, so that you can have more of that feeling NOW without having to do anything different – i.e.,without changing your partner, job, furniture or hobbies.
Now wouldn’t that be a new experience?!